Is Honesty the Best Policy?

Expanding on this point… we want to question, is telling someone the truth always is the best option?

If you cast your mind back to the last time you told a lie, maybe 10 seconds ago or 10 months. In that moment you decided to tell a lie. But why?

In most scenario’s telling the truth was by far the better thing to do, however we all know there are times when telling a little white-lie here and there may help you out! Perhaps it was to diffuse a situation, or maybe to help soothe somebody’s state of mind. (For example, telling your friend that the jacket they have just tried on in a shop, which they can’t stop talking about, looks good on them despite it looking total trash! ) . However, now try to remember the last time you told the absolute truth to someone (this may be easier for some!). Looking at that moment you have chosen, ask yourself was telling the truth the best thing to do, was honesty the best policy?

A scenario arose a week back, which caused this debate to arise in our minds. Lets lay out the setting for you… Imagine you are in the moment, you’re working and someone is being twitchy, they always flip out WAY too easily! It’s too dramatic, and you diddnt pay for this theatre performance which keeps occurring in front of your eyes! Now, when they ask you for “honest advice”, saying “am I too over dramatic?”, “do I flip too easily?”, are you really gunna give them the truth?! This could play out two ways… And really there are probably two kinds of people who would react either way!

If you love confrontation you’re probs gunna jump right in and be like “yeah!”… but… you went and told the truth, you idiot! Now look what you have done, they have flipping flipped! You’ve caused another scene, WTFFFFF DO YOU DO NOW?!!!!

But in your defence, should you really feel guilty for telling the truth? After all we as humans will have always have been taught to be honest for as long as we can remember! Also, by doing this you could potentially turn your friend into ‘the best human on this planet’, causing them to reflect and change their ways! If you do then pat yourself on the back soldier, you saved the rest of us from feeling awkward AF, and blushing bright red! This takes bravery and you entered the battlefield alone, so make sure you wear a helmet! Also, you are running the risk of completely obliterating that friendship, perhaps broken forever. Was it worth all that? No?

Oh jeez!! Just some advice, maybe just lie and tell them that they are ‘amazing’ to save yourself from the brutal firing line you could be in! Well then, that saves this awkward scenario, and also saves you from not stressing over some long pointless arguments, and nobody needs those! But… at the same time, they will continue to pursue these negative actions, possibly hurting others along the way.

Honestly, we could go round and round here. But looking at this colourful scenario perhaps there are a few ways we can judge the situation. Number one, do they truly want honestly? Put yourself in their shoes, and ask, are they fragile around this subject, and are you going to knock them in the long run? If you are going to cause another person more anxiety and upset than it’s worth, a little white lie may hurt no one. But more importantly, ask yourself, is what they are doing actually annoying or is it just me?! In this scenario people could be easily misunderstood, and we all know when working we do get a little cranky and maybe we are also being overdramatic!!!

We hope that this blog will help you all in the future for those moments where you must choose between the truth and lie. If you are in a similar situation as the ones above then remember these tips, and two more pieces of advice; with lies think long term not short term and when you lie prepare to lie more to cover the original lie. And don’t forget your lies! Confusing I know! More effort than its worth? UUUUGHHHHH

(If you’re interested about how this scenario panned out, we can confirm that thankfully a perfectly timed coffee round prevented an answer! Phew! Rather me than you!).

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